Self-acceptance, another round

Cribbed from Self-acceptance practices.

• Struggling against who you are doesn’t work.
  • Recognise that the causes and conditions of your life have made you like this.
• When we learn to acknowledge, embrace, and understand of our suffering, we suffer much less.
  • Our idea of happiness can be the main obstacle keeping us from happiness.
• Meet life as it is, not as you want it to be, as it “should” be.

See also The three uhds: let go of the shoulds; let go of the coulds; rest in the good(s).

Ongoing

• You are human, so the process of growth, maturation, is never done.
• Slowly, painfully, reconcile to life.
• Notice that struggling against who you are doesn’t work, doesn’t help, and causes damage.

Imperfect

• No human can be always compassionate and insightful and generous.
• Imperfections are normal, natural, human.
• Develop a healthy relationship with your imperfections.
• See the balanced view of yourself: your patterns and human imperfections; your basic innate goodness.
• Our idea of happiness can be the main obstacle keeping us from happiness.

Inquiry

• Gentle, honest, self-inquiry helps you soften up, lighten up, wake up.

Patterns

• Recognise that the causes and conditions of your life have made you like this.
• Meet life as it is, not as you want it to be, as it “should” be.

Stillness

• Sit still and feel the discomfort.
• When we stop running away and open to simply being here, the problem dissolves along with the “me” - who seemed to have it.
• If you can recognise and accept your pain without running away from it, you will discover that joy can be there at the same time.

Care

• Recognise and accept your suffering.
• Take care of all the parts of who you are.
• When we learn to acknowledge, embrace, and understand of our suffering, we suffer much less.

Added 2024-12-15.