It is a joy to be hidden, and a disaster not to be found. – Donald Winnicott Also in: 👤 Human.
You lack for nothing; your task is to recognise this. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism.
We do bad behaviours so we can continue to hate ourselves, not the other way around. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
Everything you have is an unearned blessing. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Pessimism, the belief of certain doom, is an expression of the arrogance of certainty. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
We practice for the benefit of all beings. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Nonduality reduces self-related thoughts, leaving more room for everything else. Also in: 🌘 Nondual, 👤 Human.
How you treat yourself is how you treat others, and vice versa. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
More "Is this a helpful strategy?" and less "Is this a final, fundamental, truth?" Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, ⏰ Waking-up, 👤 Human.
Spontaneous action, like laughing at a joke. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Simply to be alive presents us with tension and mystery. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism.
Be friendly to yourself and merciful to others. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
The self is like a net made to catch suffering. Also in: 🙋 Self, 👤 Human.
It's only when you think about it that it hurts. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness, 🌘 Nondual.
Uncertainty is just a story you tell yourself. (Inaction is in fact an action) Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 💪 Resilience.
Three jewels of Daoism: humility, compassion, simplicity. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
The three transcendentals: what is good, what is true, what is beautiful. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love, ⭕️ Tmwt.
Plant good seeds. Day by day. Year after year. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Our life is a gift from everyone. None of us have earned our keep. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Live with full attention and clear awarness. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Break the mind to body to mind negative loop. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Ask yourself: "what would be enough?" Also in: 🙆 Acceptance, 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Liveliness can only be felt, not measured by statistics. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Intellectual maps and verbal interpretations are necessarily inaccurate and incomplete. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Turn towards feelings, especially uncomfortable ones. Also in: 👤 Human, 🏛️ Stoicism.
Inspiration without action is not useful. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Collaborate with the shape of the world. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Big changes happen through sufficient suffering or inspiration. Also in: 🌊 Motion, 👤 Human.
Look more closely and resist the urge to summarise. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience, 🌘 Nondual.
Don't take it so seriously: be more playful. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
We tend to think problems, complications, are anomalies. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Your self is an individual expression of many collectives. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙋 Self.
Rest is not for being able to be more productive. Also in: 👤 Human, 🐌 Slowness.
Your identity can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
When you feel like a bad person, you're more likely to do bad things. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Take in the good of feeling cared about. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
No separation between you and the circumstances of your life. Also in: 🌘 Nondual, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Feelings of worthlessness are acquired over time, so they can be released or replaced. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
When we avoid a (negative) task, we avoid the (negative) emotions associated with it. Also in: 👤 Human, 🐌 Slowness.
Self-forgiveness mitigates negative affect, turns avoid into approach. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Recognise your shame triggers. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Notice how often you default to the (modern, convenient) comfort. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
No-one can always be their best self. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love, 💪 Resilience.
Language has evolved to describe purposive action, making it hard to describe spontaneous, actionless, activity. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Humans have evolved to do "the next most comfortable thing." Also in: 👤 Human.
Forgive yourself for the barriers you put up. Also in: ❤️ Love, 👤 Human.
Right Mindfulness (including Right Action (including Right Speech)). Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Pay close attention to the consequences of your behaviour. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
My Practice / Path: meditation, study, action. Also in: 👤 Human.
What we resist, persists. Also in: 🙆 Acceptance, 👤 Human.
Your search for happiness is what makes you feel miserable. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance, 📍 Experience.
To be noticed / perceived, something has to be different. We filter our sameness. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism, 📍 Experience.
Take problems seriously, but handle them calmly. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Put effort into the fundamentals, not the frills. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Be as aware of your faults as your angriest opponent. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
Acknowledge how difficult you are, in some ways. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
Notice how the thought of other's people opinions creates a self. Also in: 🙋 Self, 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
What will you say no to, even thought it's worth doing? Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness, ⏰ Waking-up.
There's no need to tie your self-worth to your To Do list. Also in: 👤 Human, ⏰ Waking-up, 🧘 Mindfulness.
There's no need to start the day with productivity debt. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness, ⏰ Waking-up.
We (subsconsciously, contextually) edit out the qualities that don't match what we want to see, good or bad. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 📍 Experience.
You are partly right (whether it's praise or criticism). Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
Would you ever treat a friend like this? Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Develop a healthy relationship with your imperfections. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
To be able to provide help we need a little calm, a little joy, a little compassion. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Making yourself an attractive object doesn't help you be happy as a subject. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 🌘 Nondual.
Love takes us out towards the world, opening to what's in front of us. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism.
Listen to others' needs, know your limitations, then act compassionately. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Become less attached to your pains and pleasures. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
We are in and of the world, not separate from it. Also in: 👤 Human, 🌘 Nondual.
The feeling of self is a (diffuse) contraction. Just relax, allow it to soften. Also in: 🙋 Self, 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
When we're absorbed, time and embodiment are backgrounded. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience, 🌘 Nondual.
The more important something is, the more difficult it is to grasp in language. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 👤 Human.
Sometimes falsifying is difficult. Instead test against ongoing lived experience. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 👤 Human.
Our mechanisms for simplifying the world so that we can control it prevent us from understanding it. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 👤 Human.
Orient towards unity, wholeness, the peace therein. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience, 🌘 Nondual.
Joy and delight are better encouragement to learning than criticism. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Celebrate your good qualities to acknowledge and improve them. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Anger, anxiety, aren't the right states from which to best respond. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism.
Being outdoors, in nature, wakes up our physical senses. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Equalise self and others, as human beings. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
"To learn without thinking is fatal, but to think without learning is just as bad." Also in: 👤 Human.
The Silver Rule: Don't do to others what you don't want done to you. Also in: 👤 Human.
Our reaction to ordinary, everyday, events show us our true colours. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🙋 Self, 👤 Human.
The Fourfold Task: Embrace life; Let go of (instinctive) reactivity; See the ceasing of reactivity; Act from a place of clarity. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
The Four Noble Truths: there is suffering; the cause of suffering is craving; there is an end to suffering; the way is the eightfold path. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
The Eightfold Path; (Ethics) Right Speech, Action, Livelihood; (Meditation) Effort, Mindfulness, Concentration; (Wisdom) View, Intention. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
We interpret states according to our stage. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Problems start when you dismiss or deny a perspective. Also in: 👤 Human.
Don't dismiss what you find just because it doesn't match your existing model. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
All development is envelopment: transcend and include. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙋 Self.
Take the lower position, the root, the base. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 🧘 Mindfulness, 👤 Human.
Avoid excess, extravagance, arrogance. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
What happens when you bring compassion to the feeling? Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
What connects us is more powerful than what divides us. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Every person is the protagonist in their own story. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙋 Self.
Dissolve conflict (not avoid it) by bringing non-reactivity. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, 👤 Human.
Beneath our uniqueness is commonality. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
The Middle Way. Both indulgence and deprivation are equally useless for liberation. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🐌 Slowness, 👤 Human.
The consequences of our choices extend far and wide, in many directions. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human.
4E cognition. Cognition can can be embodied, embedded, enacted, extended. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
We don't experience the world directly. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
The brain's simulation of the world needs a phenomenal self. But it's only a model. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Polarities have rewards of focusing and risks of neglecting either pole. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism, 🌘 Nondual.
Pay attention to interior and exterior, individual and collective. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism, 🌘 Nondual.
It depends. (On the context) Also in: 👤 Human, ↔️ Opposites, 💪 Resilience.
The thinking mind works to save energy and avoid the discomfort of being wrong. Also in: 🙋 Self, 👤 Human.
The thinking mind interprets, not experiences. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Practice is not having a problem with the endless stream of problems. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🙆 Acceptance, 👤 Human.
Our emotions transform preferences into demands. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human.
Non-forgiveness comes from feeling separate, being self-centered. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 🌘 Nondual.
Do fewer (and fewer) things that make people (including you) miserable. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
All models are wrong, but some are useful. Also in: 👤 Human.
We have paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and god-like technology. Also in: 👤 Human.
The world has many problems. But we don't need to be miserable while we work on them. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Spend time and attention in large bills. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, 👤 Human.
We set the threshold (for gratitude, for example) Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Negative Capability: remain in doubt and uncertainty. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Quietly, discreetly, serve the common good. Also in: ☯️ Daoism, 👤 Human.
Function melts form, perpetually. Form follows failure. Also in: 🌊 Motion, 👤 Human.
The Three Poisons: grasping (greed); aversion (anger); ignorance (delusion). Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
The Three Marks Of Existence: Impermanence (Anicca); Suffering (Dukkha); No-self (Anatta). Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
The Four Heavenly Abodes: metta (loving-kindness); karuna (compassion); mudita (empathetic joy); upekkha (equanimity). Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
(Re)connection, seeing interdependence, is more effective than strength or dominance. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism.
Proportionality is a longstanding, important, part of justice. Also in: 👤 Human.
Bring out the best in yourself and others. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love, ☯️ Daoism.
Address the underlying dynamic, not the surface issue. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Today, algophobia rules. Pain is cast as personal, private, a failure, an attack. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Pain initiates and carries narrative. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Modern society is in permanent anaethesia. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Modern society has: little space for conflict, difference, negativity; more pressure to conform, be the same, be positive. Also in: 👤 Human.
Constantly "scratching the itch" conditions the mind to keep looking for more stimulation. Also in: 👤 Human, 🐌 Slowness, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Sometimes we need to turn towards positivity to combat our inherent negativity bias. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, 👤 Human.
We tend to assume that we can only be happy if things go the way we want. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
We need perspective: we exaggerate what's close to us. Also in: 👤 Human, 🐌 Slowness.
Not quite feeling yourself is the normal human condition. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙆 Acceptance.
Worry postponement: set aside a time and place to worry instead of worrying right now Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Our To-do lists are post-modern rosaries, keeping a larger, avalanching, reality away. Also in: 👤 Human.
Our habituation to our scales of time and space make them seem objectively real. Also in: 👤 Human.
Treat people like trees: appreciate them the way they are. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Our negative expectations of others has a strong negative impact. Also in: 👤 Human.
Almost every experience in life can be categorised as a good time or a good story. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience, 💪 Resilience.
We grow by doing what excites and scares us. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Change your tone from critic to coach. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience, ❤️ Love.
Your understanding is flawed. Seek to improve it. Adopt a learning stance, be tentative. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
We all want to be heard, understood. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Three realms of disagreement: what is true, what is meaningful, what is useful? Also in: 👤 Human.
The three conversations: what happened; feelings; identity Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
See the balanced view of yourself: your patterns and human imperfections; your basic innate goodness. Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🙋 Self, 👤 Human.
Open your mind, don't try and change theirs. Also in: 👤 Human.
Make the most generous assumption, choose the most respectful interpretation. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Ask questions about, and focus on, what connects not what divides. Also in: 👤 Human.
Ask "How did we get here?" Also in: 💖 Brave, 👤 Human.
Admit ignorance, give power. Also in: 👤 Human, 💖 Brave.
It can be about understanding, not agreeing, or even having common ground. Also in: 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Dialogue is essential. Especially when things get worse. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Practice to get speedy, flexible, innovative responses to tricky situations. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
We need silence and stillness to let things sink in, below the conceptual realm. Also in: 📍 Experience, 👤 Human.
Read widely and from people you disagree with. Also in: 👤 Human, 🦢 Antifragile, ⭕️ Tmwt.
We think "acts like us" mean conscious. Also in: 👤 Human.
We all have four heads: universal (shared human things), individual (personality, character, talents), chance (where and when we're born), choice (to act, or not to act). Also in: 🙋 Self, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human.
Poetry is using language to subvert language. Also in: 👤 Human, ⭕️ Tmwt.
Free will is an illusion. Can you decide to decide? Also in: ☸️ Buddhism, 🙋 Self, 👤 Human, ⏰ Waking-up.
Have a strong back and a soft front. Also in: 🙆 Acceptance, 💖 Brave, 👤 Human.
Be able to argue both sides of an argument. Also in: ⭕️ Tmwt, 👤 Human.
Memento mori. Remember that you will die. Also in: 🙆 Acceptance, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human.
Thinking, fast and slow. The brain puts things into a fast / unconscious category or a slow / conscious category. Also in: 👤 Human, 📍 Experience.
Think in bets. Decisions are bets on the future. The outcome of every decision is a mix of the quality of your decision and luck. Also in: 💪 Resilience, 👤 Human.
Speak up. Also in: 👤 Human, 💖 Brave.
Seek to understand. Also in: 👤 Human.
See Paths of Least Resistance. Also in: 👤 Human.
Right Hemisphere → Left Hemisphere → Right Hemisphere. Also in: 👤 Human, ⭕️ Tmwt.
Reframe. In time, in space. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human, ❤️ Love.
Recommit to valued action. Also in: 👤 Human, 🏛️ Stoicism, 💪 Resilience.
Recognise the suffering. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human, 💪 Resilience.
Prefer the bigger, more integrated picture. Also in: 👤 Human, ⭕️ Tmwt.
Piggyblocking. Establish a new habit more easily by putting it between two existing habits. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙋 Self.
People's reactions are the result of their pain. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Use nonviolent communication. Speek to needs, nonjudgementally. Also in: 👤 Human, 🧘 Mindfulness.
More sensitive to pleasure means more sensitive to pain. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism, 📍 Experience.
Listen more closely, attentively, and actively. Really hear what’s being said. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
Imperfections are normal, natural, human. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 🙆 Acceptance.
I have done this too. Also in: 👤 Human, ❤️ Love, 🏛️ Stoicism.
Give Benefits, freely and easily. Also in: 👤 Human, 🏛️ Stoicism, ❤️ Love.
Everyone's good qualities are partly luck and partly effort. Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 🙋 Self.
Tough and trying times don't stop you from being a good person. Also in: 💪 Resilience, 🏛️ Stoicism, 👤 Human.
Deface the currency. Also in: 👤 Human, 🏛️ Stoicism.
A person can't be reduced to their usefulness. Also in: 👤 Human, ☯️ Daoism.
Be vulnerable. Also in: 👤 Human, 💖 Brave.
Be "happy for no reason." Also in: 👤 Human, ☸️ Buddhism, 🧘 Mindfulness.
Be comfortable with ambiguity. Also in: 🧘 Mindfulness, ☸️ Buddhism, 👤 Human.
A person is different in different situations. A person changes over time. Also in: 👤 Human, 🙋 Self, ⏰ Waking-up.