👤 Human and ...
👤 Human and ⭕️ Tmwt
- The three transcendentals: what is good, what is true, what is beautiful.
- The more important something is, the more difficult it is to grasp in language.
- Sometimes falsifying is difficult. Instead test against ongoing lived experience.
- Our mechanisms for simplifying the world so that we can control it prevent us from understanding it.
- Negative Capability: remain in doubt and uncertainty.
- Dialogue is essential. Especially when things get worse.
- Read widely and from people you disagree with.
- Poetry is using language to subvert language.
- Be able to argue both sides of an argument.
- Right Hemisphere → Left Hemisphere → Right Hemisphere.
- Prefer the bigger, more integrated picture.
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👤 Human and 🙆 Acceptance
- We do bad behaviours so we can continue to hate ourselves, not the other way around.
- Ask yourself: "what would be enough?"
- Self-forgiveness mitigates negative affect, turns avoid into approach.
- What we resist, persists.
- Your search for happiness is what makes you feel miserable.
- Be as aware of your faults as your angriest opponent.
- Acknowledge how difficult you are, in some ways.
- You are partly right (whether it's praise or criticism).
- Develop a healthy relationship with your imperfections.
- Practice is not having a problem with the endless stream of problems.
- Not quite feeling yourself is the normal human condition.
- Have a strong back and a soft front.
- Memento mori. Remember that you will die.
- Imperfections are normal, natural, human.
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👤 Human and 🦢 Antifragile
- Read widely and from people you disagree with.
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👤 Human and 💖 Brave
- Ask "How did we get here?"
- Admit ignorance, give power.
- Have a strong back and a soft front.
- Speak up.
- Be vulnerable.
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👤 Human and ☸️ Buddhism
- You lack for nothing; your task is to recognise this.
- We practice for the benefit of all beings.
- More "Is this a helpful strategy?" and less "Is this a final, fundamental, truth?"
- Simply to be alive presents us with tension and mystery.
- Be friendly to yourself and merciful to others.
- Uncertainty is just a story you tell yourself. (Inaction is in fact an action)
- Plant good seeds. Day by day. Year after year.
- Live with full attention and clear awarness.
- Don't take it so seriously: be more playful.
- No separation between you and the circumstances of your life.
- Right Mindfulness (including Right Action (including Right Speech)).
- Pay close attention to the consequences of your behaviour.
- We (subsconsciously, contextually) edit out the qualities that don't match what we want to see, good or bad.
- You are partly right (whether it's praise or criticism).
- Develop a healthy relationship with your imperfections.
- To be able to provide help we need a little calm, a little joy, a little compassion.
- Making yourself an attractive object doesn't help you be happy as a subject.
- Love takes us out towards the world, opening to what's in front of us.
- Listen to others' needs, know your limitations, then act compassionately.
- Become less attached to your pains and pleasures.
- Joy and delight are better encouragement to learning than criticism.
- Celebrate your good qualities to acknowledge and improve them.
- Anger, anxiety, aren't the right states from which to best respond.
- Equalise self and others, as human beings.
- Our reaction to ordinary, everyday, events show us our true colours.
- The Fourfold Task: Embrace life; Let go of (instinctive) reactivity; See the ceasing of reactivity; Act from a place of clarity.
- The Four Noble Truths: there is suffering; the cause of suffering is craving; there is an end to suffering; the way is the eightfold path.
- The Eightfold Path; (Ethics) Right Speech, Action, Livelihood; (Meditation) Effort, Mindfulness, Concentration; (Wisdom) View, Intention.
- What happens when you bring compassion to the feeling?
- Mindful presence, mindful response.
- The Middle Way. Both indulgence and deprivation are equally useless for liberation.
- The consequences of our choices extend far and wide, in many directions.
- Practice is not having a problem with the endless stream of problems.
- Our emotions transform preferences into demands.
- Non-forgiveness comes from feeling separate, being self-centered.
- Do fewer (and fewer) things that make people (including you) miserable.
- We set the threshold (for gratitude, for example)
- The Three Poisons: grasping (greed); aversion (anger); ignorance (delusion).
- The Three Marks Of Existence: Impermanence (Anicca); Suffering (Dukkha); No-self (Anatta).
- The Four Heavenly Abodes: metta (loving-kindness); karuna (compassion); mudita (empathetic joy); upekkha (equanimity).
- We tend to assume that we can only be happy if things go the way we want.
- See the balanced view of yourself: your patterns and human imperfections; your basic innate goodness.
- Free will is an illusion. Can you decide to decide?
- Recognise the suffering.
- People's reactions are the result of their pain.
- Listen more closely, attentively, and actively. Really hear what’s being said.
- Imperfections are normal, natural, human.
- Everyone's good qualities are partly luck and partly effort.
- Be "happy for no reason."
- Be comfortable with ambiguity.
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👤 Human and ☯️ Daoism
- Spontaneous action, like laughing at a joke.
- Three jewels of Daoism: humility, compassion, simplicity.
- Our life is a gift from everyone. None of us have earned our keep.
- New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.
- Language has evolved to describe purposive action, making it hard to describe spontaneous, actionless, activity.
- To be noticed / perceived, something has to be different. We filter our sameness.
- Take problems seriously, but handle them calmly.
- Put effort into the fundamentals, not the frills.
- Take the lower position, the root, the base.
- Avoid excess, extravagance, arrogance.
- Polarities have rewards of focusing and risks of neglecting either pole.
- Pay attention to interior and exterior, individual and collective.
- Quietly, discreetly, serve the common good.
- (Re)connection, seeing interdependence, is more effective than strength or dominance.
- Bring out the best in yourself and others.
- More sensitive to pleasure means more sensitive to pain.
- A person can't be reduced to their usefulness.
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👤 Human and 📍 Experience
- Simply to be alive presents us with tension and mystery.
- Live with full attention and clear awarness.
- Liveliness can only be felt, not measured by statistics.
- Intellectual maps and verbal interpretations are necessarily inaccurate and incomplete.
- Collaborate with the shape of the world.
- Look more closely and resist the urge to summarise.
- We tend to think problems, complications, are anomalies.
- Your search for happiness is what makes you feel miserable.
- To be noticed / perceived, something has to be different. We filter our sameness.
- Notice how the thought of other's people opinions creates a self.
- We (subsconsciously, contextually) edit out the qualities that don't match what we want to see, good or bad.
- Become less attached to your pains and pleasures.
- The feeling of self is a (diffuse) contraction. Just relax, allow it to soften.
- When we're absorbed, time and embodiment are backgrounded.
- Being outdoors, in nature, wakes up our physical senses.
- 4E cognition. Cognition can can be embodied, embedded, enacted, extended.
- We don't experience the world directly.
- The brain's simulation of the world needs a phenomenal self. But it's only a model.
- The thinking mind interprets, not experiences.
- The world has many problems. But we don't need to be miserable while we work on them.
- Negative Capability: remain in doubt and uncertainty.
- Today, algophobia rules. Pain is cast as personal, private, a failure, an attack.
- Pain initiates and carries narrative.
- Almost every experience in life can be categorised as a good time or a good story.
- We need silence and stillness to let things sink in, below the conceptual realm.
- Thinking, fast and slow. The brain puts things into a fast / unconscious category or a slow / conscious category.
- More sensitive to pleasure means more sensitive to pain.
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👤 Human and ❤️ Love
- Everything you have is an unearned blessing.
- We practice for the benefit of all beings.
- The three transcendentals: what is good, what is true, what is beautiful.
- No-one can always be their best self.
- Forgive yourself for the barriers you put up.
- What connects us is more powerful than what divides us.
- Beneath our uniqueness is commonality.
- Bring out the best in yourself and others.
- Address the underlying dynamic, not the surface issue.
- Change your tone from critic to coach.
- We all want to be heard, understood.
- Reframe. In time, in space.
- I have done this too.
- Give Benefits, freely and easily.
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👤 Human and 🧘 Mindfulness
- How you treat yourself is how you treat others, and vice versa.
- It's only when you think about it that it hurts.
- Break the mind to body to mind negative loop.
- Ask yourself: "what would be enough?"
- Your identity can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- Self-forgiveness mitigates negative affect, turns avoid into approach.
- Recognise your shame triggers.
- Notice how often you default to the (modern, convenient) comfort.
- What will you say no to, even thought it's worth doing?
- There's no need to tie your self-worth to your To Do list.
- There's no need to start the day with productivity debt.
- Listen to others' needs, know your limitations, then act compassionately.
- Being outdoors, in nature, wakes up our physical senses.
- We interpret states according to our stage.
- Don't dismiss what you find just because it doesn't match your existing model.
- Take the lower position, the root, the base.
- What happens when you bring compassion to the feeling?
- Mindful presence, mindful response.
- Dissolve conflict (not avoid it) by bringing non-reactivity.
- Spend time and attention in large bills.
- Constantly "scratching the itch" conditions the mind to keep looking for more stimulation.
- Sometimes we need to turn towards positivity to combat our inherent negativity bias.
- We tend to assume that we can only be happy if things go the way we want.
- Treat people like trees: appreciate them the way they are.
- Your understanding is flawed. Seek to improve it. Adopt a learning stance, be tentative.
- Make the most generous assumption, choose the most respectful interpretation.
- Practice to get speedy, flexible, innovative responses to tricky situations.
- Reframe. In time, in space.
- Recognise the suffering.
- People's reactions are the result of their pain.
- Use nonviolent communication. Speek to needs, nonjudgementally.
- Listen more closely, attentively, and actively. Really hear what’s being said.
- Be "happy for no reason."
- Be comfortable with ambiguity.
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👤 Human and 🌊 Motion
- Big changes happen through sufficient suffering or inspiration.
- Function melts form, perpetually. Form follows failure.
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👤 Human and 🌘 Nondual
- Nonduality reduces self-related thoughts, leaving more room for everything else.
- It's only when you think about it that it hurts.
- Look more closely and resist the urge to summarise.
- No separation between you and the circumstances of your life.
- Making yourself an attractive object doesn't help you be happy as a subject.
- We are in and of the world, not separate from it.
- When we're absorbed, time and embodiment are backgrounded.
- Orient towards unity, wholeness, the peace therein.
- Polarities have rewards of focusing and risks of neglecting either pole.
- Pay attention to interior and exterior, individual and collective.
- Non-forgiveness comes from feeling separate, being self-centered.
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👤 Human and ↔️ Opposites
- It depends. (On the context)
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👤 Human and 💪 Resilience
- Pessimism, the belief of certain doom, is an expression of the arrogance of certainty.
- Uncertainty is just a story you tell yourself. (Inaction is in fact an action)
- Inspiration without action is not useful.
- When you feel like a bad person, you're more likely to do bad things.
- Take in the good of feeling cared about.
- Feelings of worthlessness are acquired over time, so they can be released or replaced.
- No-one can always be their best self.
- Would you ever treat a friend like this?
- Orient towards unity, wholeness, the peace therein.
- It depends. (On the context)
- Modern society is in permanent anaethesia.
- Worry postponement: set aside a time and place to worry instead of worrying right now
- Almost every experience in life can be categorised as a good time or a good story.
- We grow by doing what excites and scares us.
- Change your tone from critic to coach.
- The three conversations: what happened; feelings; identity
- It can be about understanding, not agreeing, or even having common ground.
- Dialogue is essential. Especially when things get worse.
- Think in bets. Decisions are bets on the future. The outcome of every decision is a mix of the quality of your decision and luck.
- Recommit to valued action.
- Recognise the suffering.
- Tough and trying times don't stop you from being a good person.
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👤 Human and 🙋 Self
- The self is like a net made to catch suffering.
- Your self is an individual expression of many collectives.
- Notice how the thought of other's people opinions creates a self.
- The feeling of self is a (diffuse) contraction. Just relax, allow it to soften.
- Our reaction to ordinary, everyday, events show us our true colours.
- All development is envelopment: transcend and include.
- Every person is the protagonist in their own story.
- The thinking mind works to save energy and avoid the discomfort of being wrong.
- See the balanced view of yourself: your patterns and human imperfections; your basic innate goodness.
- We all have four heads: universal (shared human things), individual (personality, character, talents), chance (where and when we're born), choice (to act, or not to act).
- Free will is an illusion. Can you decide to decide?
- Piggyblocking. Establish a new habit more easily by putting it between two existing habits.
- Everyone's good qualities are partly luck and partly effort.
- A person is different in different situations. A person changes over time.
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👤 Human and 🐌 Slowness
- Rest is not for being able to be more productive.
- When we avoid a (negative) task, we avoid the (negative) emotions associated with it.
- The Middle Way. Both indulgence and deprivation are equally useless for liberation.
- Constantly "scratching the itch" conditions the mind to keep looking for more stimulation.
- We need perspective: we exaggerate what's close to us.
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👤 Human and 🏛️ Stoicism
- Turn towards feelings, especially uncomfortable ones.
- The consequences of our choices extend far and wide, in many directions.
- Our emotions transform preferences into demands.
- We all have four heads: universal (shared human things), individual (personality, character, talents), chance (where and when we're born), choice (to act, or not to act).
- Memento mori. Remember that you will die.
- Reframe. In time, in space.
- Recommit to valued action.
- I have done this too.
- Give Benefits, freely and easily.
- Tough and trying times don't stop you from being a good person.
- Deface the currency.
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👤 Human and ⏰ Waking-up
- More "Is this a helpful strategy?" and less "Is this a final, fundamental, truth?"
- What will you say no to, even thought it's worth doing?
- There's no need to tie your self-worth to your To Do list.
- There's no need to start the day with productivity debt.
- Free will is an illusion. Can you decide to decide?
- A person is different in different situations. A person changes over time.
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